Saturday, November 14, 2015

On Initiating

You know how much I love Seth Godin, right?

Well, I love his post from yesterday, because it directly relates to what we--as writers--do. He's talking about the ones who create. Those who are brave enough to make something then send that creation out into the world.

Forget the critics. Forget the naysayers. The world needs us. It would miss us if we were gone.

The full post is short and sweet and can be read here. It's called The Initiator. 

Now go forth and create.

(i.e. Initiate)


Friday, October 30, 2015

On Passion

Love Message

"Passion that goes beyond the natural measure of love ultimately aims at the mystery of becoming whole, and this is why one feels, when one has fallen passionately in love, that becoming one with the other person is the only worthwhile goal of one's life." 

"The Process of Individuation"
M. L. von Franz
Man and his Symbols
Carl Jung et al

Sunday, October 18, 2015


I am learning there are as many sides to a story as there are people involved.

My daughter is studying the American Revolution, and a few of her assignments have been to read various accounts of events that unfold.

It's kind of amazing to me how two people can perceive the same event in entirely different ways.

I mentioned in a previous post that I'm dealing with a family issue (we're all dealing with those, I'm sure). Of course, I have an opinion. However, because it doesn't directly involve me, I'm choosing to stay as neutral as possible. As "Switzerland," I get many sides to the same story.

This has been eye-opening for me as a writer. Because I got it--I just didn't get it (if that makes any sense at all).

No two people can ever tell the same story.

Something worth thinking about. :)


Friday, October 2, 2015


So sorry for the radio silence!

There's actually some family member drama that's eating away at my spare time (what little I have). You know how that is, right? :)

I do want to pass this blog post from Seth Godin on, though (love him!). It's all about failure.

The key takeaway:

"Stop engaging with the false theory that the best way to stop feeling like a failure is to succeed. Thinking of one's self as a failure is not the same as failing. And thus, succeeding (on this particular task) is not the antidote." 

Be Brilliant!


Friday, September 18, 2015

On Being Mom to a Toddler

I think 95% of being a mom to a toddler is:

     1) keeping him from hurting himself

     2) keeping him from destroying the house

     3) throwing away wet paper towels from the messes he makes

The other 5%? 

     1) hugs

     2) kisses

     3) nap time 

It's the 5% we hang on to, folks. Am I right? 


Tuesday, September 15, 2015

What Should I Do with the Rest of my Life?

On two separate occasions last week I was asked about life plans and the future (once from a writer friend and the other from a student), and I thought I would share some of the thoughts I offered to them publicly.

The question was:

What do I do with the rest of my life? Or . . . how do I know what I should be when I "grow up"? 

First of all, when my parents were coming along (Baby Boomers), they watched their parents enter one career field and stay with it their whole lives. Many of them tried to do the same, to varying degrees of success. We are not living in a Baby Boomer world, and I've read that, on average, the student coming of age right now will change careers about three times in his/her lifetime.

And yes, this sounds scary, but I also think it can be a good thing--that it's a sign of growth and development. I am not the same person at thirty-three that I was at eighteen (thank goodness!). I've grown. I have new ideas and beliefs. The core is still there. I'm still very much me, just Me 2.0 (or even 3 or 4.0). I definitely feel like improvements have been made in those new versions. Upgrades, if you will.

So it goes without saying that what was right for me at eighteen might not be right for me at this point in my life

But that doesn't mean everything I did at eighteen was a waste. No. I needed to pass through that stage to get where I am now. It was a crucial part of the process.

So . . . how do you know what to do with the rest of your life?

First, don't think of it as the "rest of your life." Think of it as today. Right now. In this moment.

And what I've learned is that the most fulfilled people I know are using their gifts, in this moment, in service to others.

They're taking their talents and using them to give back to the world. The same is true for the artists and writers I know, and the accountants and administrative assistants. They're creating those images and writing stories that speak to others. They're handling paperwork so that the customer's lives will be a little easier. They're crunching numbers so that the business owner can concentrate on what he/she is good at: making and selling the product.

As you learn and grow, you may develop new talents and find other interests. That's when you adapt. Try new things. Make mistakes.

So if you're in a flux and you're not sure where you want to be or what you need to do, think about your talents. Think about what makes you happy. Think about a gift you have that only YOU can offer the world. Look for areas in your life and community to use these talents. And, if something isn't working, know that it's okay to re-evaluate your situation and goals and make changes. 

It's okay to "fail."

It's okay to start over.

At the end of the day, you are responsible for your own happiness and well-being. The idea of "what do I want to do with my life?" is ever-evolving, and this is a really, really great thing.

Be Brilliant!


Saturday, August 29, 2015

On Sale!


Okay, so to be perfectly honest, I was only going to keep CMH on sale for the weekend. 

But then the school week happened, and I kept forgetting to change the price back. 

No one's loss, really. ;)

So I'm going to leave the book on sale for a little while longer.

Also, if you have time, stop by the Indelibles' blog and check out the Hot New Releases!


To make up for my radio silence these past few weeks:

On Sale!

This weekend only!

Grab a copy and tell a friend.

And thanks for hanging out with me. 

Always. :D